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Writer's pictureKeith J Stewart

Get That Soft, Responsive Feel: My Favourite Horsemanship Techniques

Let me show you my favourite ways to get a soft, responsive feel from your horse…


Every horse rider knows that moment – the one where you and your horse are in perfect sync, moving together as if reading each other’s thoughts. This harmony is rooted in one crucial skill: achieving a soft, responsive feel. It’s that magic moment where the reins are a bridge, not a barrier, and the horse responds to the lightest of cues with ease and willingness. Today, I’m excited to share my favourite way to create this connection, a technique that emphasizes trust, clarity, and mutual respect.


Step One: Set the Foundation with Groundwork


Before even mounting, I spend time on meaningful groundwork. This isn’t about drilling or working the horse down; it’s about communicating expectations and establishing clarity. Here, I’m looking for focus and responsiveness, guiding my horse to read subtle body language cues. By directing my horse’s movements with just my position or a gentle cue, I set the stage for a responsive feel in the saddle.


Step Two: Build Connection with Soft Contact


When I’m in the saddle, I start by establishing a soft contact, aiming for that “feel” rather than control. The key here is not to pull or hold but to create an inviting feel on the reins. Think of your reins as a line of communication rather than a tool for restraint. I apply just enough pressure to signal my intention, then release as soon as my horse acknowledges it. This approach teaches them to respond to a light touch, associating comfort with responding promptly.


Step Three: Fine-Tune with Flexion Exercises


Once we’ve got that light connection, I add in some gentle flexion exercises. I’ll softly ask my horse to bring their head around just enough to feel the rein, keeping it light and easy. These small movements build responsiveness and show the horse that a soft cue is all they need to listen for. It’s not about bending for the sake of bending; it’s about teaching them to stay loose and attentive to my guidance.


Step Four: Reward Softness Consistently


Every time my horse gives me a soft, willing response, I reward them immediately. Whether that’s a gentle rub on the neck, a quick verbal praise, or a slight break, I want my horse to know that softness leads to comfort. Over time, this builds a habit where my horse willingly responds with that same softness, eager for that positive reinforcement.


Step Five: Apply It to Every Movement


Softness is a mindset, not just an action. I carry this approach into every movement – from turning to transitions between gaits. By asking with a light cue and releasing quickly, I reinforce the idea that they don’t need to brace or resist. The more I do this, the more my horse seeks that soft feel, creating a partnership that’s responsive, relaxed, and completely in sync.


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— KJS



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